Rating: Excellent Unfu*K Yourself blurb excerpt: Unfu*k Yourself is a refreshing, BS-free, self-empowerment guide that offers an honest, no-nonsense approach to help you move past self-imposed limitations.
In this straightforward handbook, Bishop gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish all that is weighing you down and become the unfu*ked version of yourself.
My opinion: I f*cking love this book. I have read many of the Best Personal Development Books on the market and this on is right up there. It's conversational, practical, and direct in the way that The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is. But I like it more.
Although there are parts which border on being a "Hype", "Motivational", "Cliche", I think the overall value makes this one of the Best Personal Development Books I have come across and one I will certainly be gifting. It's important to note that one book won't change your life, but apply some of these principles and it will change the way you live it.
Lessons from Unfu*k Yourself:
You must first start by changing your language. Every time you try to describe what you’re feeling, ask yourself if your language is building your up or tearing you down. Use language to empower yourself. Adopt assertive self-talk.
Don’t tell yourself you’re not going to be great, you are great. You will not be brave, you are brave. This slight tweak in your internal dialogue makes a great impact on your self-perception
No matter how difficult, challenging, or pressing life’s circumstances can be, how you fundamentally relate to and engage with those circumstances will have the biggest say in how they turn out. Again, the answer is inside you rather than outside you
The summary of the seven assertions:
I am willing.
I am wired to win.
I got this.
I embrace the uncertainty.
I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.
I am relentless.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
I am willing.
When you start to view the world through the lens of what you’re willing and unwilling to pursue, rather than what it seems you want and don’t want, things start to become a lot clearer. Instead of wasting time worrying about the things other people have, you’ll start focusing on what’s really important to you and your life.
Example: You want a luxury car but are you willing to work an extra 10 - 20 hours a week. If you aren't willing you need to let go of the goal of driving a luxury car and focus on goals that are more congruent.
I am wired to win.
You are wired to win. You just are playing the wrong game.
Define your game, embrace the challenge, and strive to understand yourself in deeper and more meaningful ways.
If we change our thinking a little, we can use our mind’s unconquerable nature to act on all the positive goals and dreams we hold for ourselves.
I got this.
Remember all the problems you faced – and eventually overcame. A lot of them may be very similar to what you’re dealing with today. You probably felt a lot of the same emotions back then, too. You thought you’d never get over your ex, that you’d never find a better job, or that you wouldn’t live through the humiliation of some situation. But you did. You raised up and kicked on and, looking back, some of those problems might even seem a little silly now….Even the more serious problems probably seem a lot different today. After all, you did make it through them.
Face your problems as they come, one by one, give them the attention they need and move on. Bundling them all together into a morass of confusion and letting them overwhelm you just won’t help. It takes precision, patience, and discipline of thought. Work through each item pragmatically and with a solution in mind. Remember, everything is solve-able, and if you can’t see a solution, it only means you haven’t worked it out yet.'
I embrace the uncertainty.
Our obsession with certainty can be tragic and counterproductive for two reasons. First, uncertainty is where things happen. Uncertainty is your personal pathway to opportunity. It’s the environment in which you grow, experience new things, and produce new, unprecedented results. Uncertainty is where new happens.
''Missing the target isn’t the worst thing you can do. Not taking the shot is.''
The person who accepts how unpredictable and uncertain life is has no choice but to embrace it.
I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.
You are not defined by what’s inside your head. You are what you do. Your actions. While your thoughts can become your reality, it’s only through your actions that your thoughts actually become your life.
I am relentless.
The true measure of who you are won’t be found in your circumstances but rather in the way in which you respond to them. Be relentless. Develop the momentum to keep moving and moving and moving, no matter what happens.
The key to becoming relentless is to focus on the problem in front of you. Give it your full attention. Become someone who progresses even when all seems lost. The answer is always out there; all you need to do is find it. Then you can move forward to your next obstacle.
Relentlessness has one direction, and that’s forward.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
Don’t be fooled by the self-help bullshit that tells you “You deserve it!” Because you don’t. No one does. That conversation will leave you waiting and wanting and eventually a complete victim to your own life. Sometimes you just have to grind it out, stake your claim, and hustle for what you want.
Instead of silently expecting something and feeling slighted when it doesn’t happen, let go of that expectation. If there’s something you want, how about asking for it without attaching an expectation to the outcome.
Unfu*k Yourself Best Quotes;
“Self-talk is fucking you over and in ways, you can’t even begin to imagine."
''People spend their lives waiting for the cavalry, all the while never realizing they are the cavalry. Your life is waiting on you to finally show up.''
''If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation – in other words, if you’re willing to put up with your situation – then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.''
"Life won’t stop for your pauses and procrastinations. It won’t stop for your confusion or fear. It will continue right along without you. Whether you play an active part or not, the show will go on.''
"The more we try and remain comfortable today, the more uncomfortable we'll be tomorrow"
''We only see the highlight reels of others’ lives while being continually reminded of our own behind the scenes.''
''You don’t have to feel like today is your day, you just have to act like it is.''
''The world doesn’t stop you from succeeding; you’re not that big of a deal. The universe is neither conspiring for nor against you, and the only thing that stops you is when you buy into the notion that you are stopped. Then, my friend, you really are stopped.''
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